Confessions of an IT Wife (And a Cover Reveal!)

I’ve shared about my¬†secret life as an IT wife before (here) and now I’m going to share some confessions of an IT wife. ūüôā In case you don’t speak tech, IT stands for Information Technology (not the crazy clown from a movie that a friend told me about, haha). Ever since I met hubby, he’s worked with computers. This explains why we have a surplus of monitors, laptops, and tablets lying around the house, plus wireless routers and cables and other electronic doodads. E mentioned once that his friend had to wait for his dad to come home from work in order to use his laptop to play games, to which I¬†rolled my eyes and thought,¬†You don’t know how good you have it, buddy.

But along with all the perks of a tech job comes the stress. I’m talking about STRESS¬†with a capital S. I like to think of the IT department as a company’s first responders to a¬†technical problem. And in this day and age, especially when you live in the Silicon Valley, a¬†technical problem is more like a technical emergency. Cue the sirens and flashing lights … or emails and texts and phone calls at all hours of the day and night! He used to be the one fixing the issues, but now as the Fire Chief, he’s the one overseeing three dozen different issues at the same time. Hubby’s job is so all-encompassing and critical, that he carries a lot of his stress from the job back home. As a (trying to be) supportive wife, I do my best to¬†listen and share in his load as much as I can. After 18 years of listening to him speak tech, I actually understand most of what he tells me now. ūüėČ I didn’t realize though just how much I’ve been¬†sucked into¬†his world until I got¬†inspired to write¬†about it.

That’s right. I wrote a story about an IT guy. ūüėĬ†And since I write romance, I had to include an IT girl … and I bet you can guess what happens next.

I must confess though that I have had more than enough of the IT world,¬†both the real and fictional ones. I’m sure I’m not the first IT wife/girlfriend who wishes her hubby/boyfriend spent as much time looking at her as he does¬†his phone. ūüėČ Or that he could spend¬†one weekend‚ÄĒor even a day‚ÄĒwithout worrying about something going down at work. But I’m thankful he has a good job and our family has the best tech support available 24/7/365 (although sometimes we have to share him)!¬†Most of all, I’m grateful¬†I get to walk side by side with my IT guy through all¬†the crazy¬†ups and downs of his IT career.

Now for the fun stuff … here’s the cover reveal for A Spoonful of Spice, the¬†second short story in my Seasons of Love series!

*Updated Sept. 3, 2016: This cover is no longer the cover for my story! Go HERE to find out why. ūüėČ

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Josh Pepper has one goal: to become the next manager in his IT department. But his career plans are sidelined when the first woman, Cin Thomas, joins the team. He now needs to keep everyone from being distracted by her presence, a task that appears easy to accomplish … until she starts invading his dreams with her piercing green eyes.

And here’s the playlist to give you a taste of the story. ūüôā

 

The Secret Life of an IT Wife

Sometimes I feel like I’m married to a firefighter.¬†Hubby may not drive around town in a big red truck putting out raging fires, but as an IT guy, he’s the one who¬†comes running¬†whenever something technical goes up in flames in the corporate world. He’s the guy¬†who might have received a phone call during his honeymoon because rolling blackouts at¬†home shut all the company’s servers down. He’s the one who may have¬†gotten¬†a call¬†on Thanksgiving from an employee working in Singapore who forgot it was a national holiday in the States that day. He’s also likely the one who missed dinner with his family on his wife’s birthday because he was stuck at work trying to resolve¬†yet another issue (but to put things into perspective, he was hours late for¬†his own birthday dinner a few years ago due to work). ūüėõ

Suffice it to say, being married to an IT guy can be challenging at times.

Image courtesy of dan/freedigitalphotos.net

Image courtesy of dan/freedigitalphotos.net

I don’t share all this to complain about hubby’s job, although I’m sure life would be different if he were in a calmer line of work. I also don’t share this to brag about how understanding and patient and supportive I am because if I had all those awesome qualities, I would be polishing my halo right now instead of trying to find it. ūüėČ The reason I’m giving you a sneak peak into the secret life of an IT wife is because I know there are couples struggling in their marriages right now with whatever issues they are going through, and the struggle is real.

I wish I had some great insight into how to better communicate with your spouse or how to keep your love burning strong, but I’m still learning “on the job”, too. But one thing I did realize this week while hubby was dealing with a company phone issue and later on, an email issue, was that I didn’t¬†truly understand what work was like for him on a daily basis. It didn’t hit me until one afternoon during one of C’s massive meltdowns over a homework assignment. Thanks to E (and the power of sibling rivalry), she had gotten thrown off while counting for a math problem, and promptly began wailing at the top of her lungs in frustration. As if to prove she might one day consider a career as an opera singer, she raised her volume up two notches and her range another octave. By the time her cantata¬†was over, my ears were ringing and my blood pressure was off the charts.

That evening when hubby was venting about the issues he had faced at work that day and feeling the pain¬†of an oncoming migraine, I suddenly got a peek into his world. For a moment I understood what it was like to walk¬†in his shoes. The¬†overwhelming level of frustration, anger and anxiety¬†I experienced during C’s “performance” gave me a glimpse of¬†the emotional stuff he faces at work EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.

I told him, “I get it now. It’s like you’re constantly dealing with tantrums and meltdowns at work.”

He smirked and joked back, “Yes, I have a lot of kids to deal with.”

Boy, he sure does, and those “kids” aren’t even half as cute as ours are (even when they’re singing opera).

Sigh. Poor hubby. The struggle out there in the working world is real. So real, that it sometimes¬†a lot of the times follows him home and places a strain on us, our family life and our marriage. But instead of letting the stress and busyness divide us, I’m learning to choose empathy. I’m finding ways to better support hubby as he fights fires. I try to make his life sweeter, even if it means spending half an hour with wrinkly hands submerged in a bowl of water in order to deseed four pomegranates, hubby’s favorite winter fruit (FYI,¬†some people prefer¬†the spoon method). We’re both learning to lean on God more and to rest in¬†His saving grace. And we sneak in as much time as possible whenever we can to catch up and support each other throughout the day with a text message or two.

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All this yummy goodness, and hubby gobbled it up in like 2 days! ūüėõ

The secret life of an IT wife may not be a glamorous one, but it’s the one I have and the one I’ll make the best out of … because the IT guy I’m married to is worth it.

Lastly, I want to give a shout-out to all the amazing wives of those in uniform who fight literal fires, chase real bad guys and put their lives on the line each day to protect others. You ladies have my deepest respect, admiration and gratitude.

Take a listen to Beyonce’s song, “Halo”, a reminder that we can all wear a “halo” and show grace to the people in our lives.

Who has been a source of strength and support for you? Who have you been there for?